A smile, hope, or confidence can rise from a single word. But the job is not completed with words alone. Facial expressions are the icing on the cake. A simple “Hello” from a smiling face breathes life into a desolate room. Now, imagine that same salutation but with a grimacing look. Whoa! That’s enough to make goose pimples jump. Our words have force. They can hit like a fist or sooth like a gentle touch.
Words are not corporeal. We cannot see them, nor can we touch them. It is why we rely on facial expressions. Bright eyes, combined with a joyful smile, creates a warm facial expression. Angry eyes, combined with a cheery smile, shape a face that lacks bringing comfort. It’s easy to see why smiling faces are in such demand.
When we smile with genuine intent, dopamine and serotonin are released. It’s a feel-good party in the brain, and we want everyone to feel good. It is why people are inclined to say, “Smile!”. However, people do not like being told what to do. There’s a reflex in our brain that says, “who are you to tell me what to do?”. We all have it, and that’s not a bad thing. Nonetheless, that my friend is the perfect formula for discontentment; our wanting others to feel good and our not wanting others telling us what to do.
We are not equal when it comes to handling stress. Minor obstacles may create a significant stumbling block for others. For example, filing taxes are quite simple in my eyes. However, I have known people who can look at a 1040ez form and not comprehend what to do. It also goes to show that we should not judge others for their inability to complete a task. We all have our strengths and weaknesses.
Our perception of the day determines its quality. Commands are the last thing we want. Yes, we want everyone to be happy. But we cannot make everyone happy. It’s like forcing a flower to bloom. We can talk and listen to help others achieve a better mindset, but only when they are ready for the company. Never force someone to express themselves. That is uncouth.
Rather than a command, give a reason to smile. A compliment, hug, or assistance can go further than making a suggestion. These small actions are the sunshine to a rose petal.