Is it wrong to form an opinion about others? I’m sure an answer popped up in your head. We create ideas and conclusions all the time. Suppose a five-year-old child presented a picture. We’d tell them they are talented. If an adult showed a picture of the same quality, we would be less than impressed. We may even question that person’s talent or mental capacity. We form opinions very quickly about all things in life. It’s the “How do I feel about this?” feeling in our gut.
There is nothing wrong with forming an opinion. Our fault begins with a negative expression. Bringing others down to rise above elevates no one. It’s juvenile. In our search for happiness, we should remember that negativity does not promote positivity. Nor does retaliation. Just because someone judges us does not give us the right to return that action. So, what should we do when our peers poke fun or insult us. First, don’t take it personally. It may sound complicated, but the purpose of an insult is to make others feel bad. If they can’t make us feel bad, then they have failed. Yes, there is a good chance that they will try again, again, and again. But everyone grows tired of failing. Secondly, enjoy the laugh. We are all human, and we all have our flaws. No one is perfect, and we all get judged at some point by our peers. It includes those judging us.
So, who am I to judge? I am to judge myself. Learn to place judgment in a positive light. Most of the time, we put a negative light on others and point out their shortcomings. It would be easy to do the same for ourselves. Instead, we need to identify our positive attributes. This task may seem daunting at first, but it will get easier. We are good, and our intentions are good. Note of the smile that we bring to others. Did we thank others for their assistance? Or perhaps we merely held a door for someone. These are small acts, but in the grand scheme of life, they mean so much. I’m not going to fret if others don’t measure up to the standards that I set for myself. That’s not the point of me finding my happiness and improving myself. My disposition in life is different from yours. So, who am I to judge?