Why do we love our parents? Come on; this is easy. When we were to young to provide for ourselves they were there. They met our needs and became our childhood heroes. OK, that’s a slight exaggeration, but you get the picture. Having our essential needs fulfilled is one reason we cling to our parents. They provided stability.
Then we developed wants. Junk food, toys, TV are usually the first series in a long list. The gratitude of fulfilling wishes is shorter-lived. Nothing quenches thirst like water, yet people drink less than the daily recommended amount. Why?
Simply put, we substitute water with sodas because of our addiction to processed sugar, and it tastes better. There’s a reason sugar is called kid-crack. But, processed sugar is a want, and it leaves us wanting more. And if we don’t get it, we get cranky, loud, and irrational. This brings me back to my point. We are all emotional creatures.
Everyone has something that triggers their emotions, good or bad. The foundation of it all lies within the meeting of needs or wants. This is why people fall in love then fall out of love. The fulfillment isn’t there. We need emotional as much as material support.
We can’t live on love alone, and we can’t live solely on material things.
There has to be a balance.
Everyone, with a sense of humanity, wishes wellbeing for others. No one wants others to suffer. But, there are times when our emotions get the best of us, and we lose control. We raise our voice in a futile effort to get our point across. This is a state of being overly emotional. Note: Raising our voice only makes us less approachable. It solves nothing, aside from raising adrenaline levels, and puts nerves on edge. Trust me when I say they are not “just words”. We can throw some mean verbal punches that hurt. Perhaps, this is one reason why I am overly polite when speaking to others. I don’t want to be that angry sounding guy.
For me, I used my pent up rage as an adrenaline rush. Blood pressure would shoot through the roof. Words would fly at high volume, destroying whoever was in my line of sight. Hey! This isn’t the first time I’ve admitted to being a class-A socially nimrodded person. That was then, this is now. I’ve come to terms with my actions. But that doesn’t mean the memories aren’t there. I just don’t beat myself up over them any more.
The manner in which we handle each situation is one hundred percent up to us, and we are responsible for our actions. We are the reason why we get mad, sad, or happy. We control our emotions. If not, then we are out of control. Let’s be honest, we all have our moments of losing control. The emotions pertaining to certain situations will overwhelm us. It’s knowing what to do in these situation that make or break the moment.
Being over emotional is a sign that the situation is more than we can handle a lone. This is why it is good to have a friend or relative that we can confide to. No one is expected to handle every situation a lone.
It’s our choice to be overly emotional… or not.
Until the next blog, live life, be happy, and click the like.