We’ve heard the saying; Hindsight is 20/20. And, it’s true. Looking back allows us to see what we did right and what we did wrong. This is where we tend to mess up. Most of us beat ourselves up for not doing better.
I look back and see every inebriated moment. The foolish stunts and how I treated others embarrass me. But there is nothing I can do to change the past. The best thing I can do is to do better. Nothing is gained from wallowing in my shortcomings.
How can we find happiness if our past haunts us? To that, I’d like to say, “Exactly.” In some messed up self-torturing thought process. We end up haunting ourselves. We look back in judgment and come down harder on ourselves than we would anyone else. Why? We wouldn’t keep hounding our peers for their mistakes.
There is a multitude of reasons why we act this way. For some, it may be an addiction to the depression chemicals in our brain. We’ve heard of adrenaline junkies. Well, we can also get hooked on the depression cocktail; dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine.
We are not always our best counselors. If depression has been on our shoulders for a while, then it may be time to reach out to family, friends, or even a counselor. We are not alone. And that’s a good thing.
We deserve to be happy. There is no reason to dwell on the past since we are here in the present. We didn’t receive a manual on how life operates. So, it stands to reason that we will mess up. It happens, and when it does, we need to forgive ourselves and move along. Think of them as “little life lessons”. I get them every day, and that’s OK.
Until the next blog, live life, be happy and click the like button.