The Neutral Life

Life is simple, people make it difficult. In most regions of the world, people live in comfort. We no longer need to hunt or forage for food or water. Traveling long distances is easier. It doesn’t take us all day to travel twenty miles. And, our technology allows us to communicate with loved ones no matter where they are on Earth. But, we still cannot find happiness. We insist on complaining about how bad we have it, and how bad life is.

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Life contains elementary laws that lead to our happiness. We must accept who we are. Upon realizing where we stand in relation to our morals we either need to change or maintain our habits and routines. Next, we need to control our wants. Contentment leads to satisfaction. “Want” is a bottomless pit that we will never be able to fill. We will always want more. Learn to be happy with what we have. Treat others with respect. We shouldn’t go around trusting everyone in hopes that they will do the same for us. But, it is uncouth for us to keep the world at bay assuming everyone has an angle or a plot against us. Finally, it is up to us to enjoy the simple things such as a cup of coffee and the sunrise. Find moments in our hectic life and pause. These are the things that lead to happiness.

But, it’s people who insist on not leaving well enough alone. We mettle with everything in an effort to find improvement. Our cars need to be faster, our houses need to be bigger, and our clothes need to draw more attention. That’s it. The fundamental reason for our dissatisfaction lies within the fact that we need to be noticed. We compete with those around us for the sake of saying “I’m better than you.” It’s sad that we cannot accept ourselves nor others. We must compete and strive for the attention of others. Do we really need that affirmation? Are we so shallow that we are willing to sacrifice others for a moment of fame? Yes, yes we are.  

Life is neither good nor bad, but our perception may say otherwise. Life didn’t give us a flat tire, the nail in the road did. Life didn’t give a crappy boy/girlfriend, we chose them. Life didn’t give a dead-end job, we applied for it. Life is a buffet and we choose what to have on our plate. Yes, there are outside entities that affect us. But we are responsible for how we act, react, and treat others. Life didn’t make our bad decision nor did it make our good ones. We did. 

Life is neither for nor against us. It is a stage upon which we live our lives; the good life. But what is a “good life?” Surprisingly, the answer is as unique as the person we ask. In fact, everyone has his/her own definition. Referring back to the buffet, we are making our plate. We choose who to have around. Our anger is our own. Just as our joy and happiness are ours as well. Life is not plotting against us. I’m sure Albert Hitchcock and Steven King would disagree.

Until the next blog, live life and be happy.

Always Keep A Hand On The Wheel

As we stand on the side of the highway of life, a low mechanical whine demands attention. Our heart begins to race as a single-car appears over the horizon. Loud, obnoxious happiness is seen as the driver waves both hands high. Each second without control adds to the emanate danger. 

Consumed by the howls of demonic engine screaming for more gas, we watch the car pass. Within a glimpse, a young girl shoots us a wink and loses control. Screaming tires scramble for control that was never there. A late corrective steer sends the car sideways, allowing for a savage bite from a pothole. Intense pressure builds on the suspension as the wheel hooks into the road. Like a rolling log, the car tumbles within the lines as it comes to rest on its wheels. 

We cautiously begin to walk over to the scene. The young girl, miraculously unscathed, rants, and complaints about how good life was. Blame went to the pothole, then to the city for not fixing the pothole. Questioning why bad things happen to good people, she stated that she emphatically knew something terrible was going to happen.

“It always does. You can’t enjoy life for too long without something coming along and knocking us off the high-horse.”

End scene.

The girl seemed oblivious to the cause of her wreck (lack of hands on the steering wheel). Instead, she blamed the pothole, then the city for not fixing the pothole. How often do we replicate this scene in our lives? Perhaps we never engage in positive thinking, staying optimistic, or having gratitude. We may even go as far as blaming others for our misfortunes. 

If we have gratitude, then we are not whining and complaining. We are focused on the positivity in our lives. Yes, bad things will happen. But, with positive thinking, a productive solution is found. 

Like the song says, “Don’t worry, be happy.” If we are worrying, then we are not looking for a solution. It is impossible to do both at the same time. Be grateful. No one likes a complainer. If one cannot find positivity within a situation, then they need to ask someone for assistance.

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and lose sight of the good in our lives. It happens to everyone at some point. But, taking the time to remember the positives allows us to have pride in our life. We are unique and special. Never take that for granted and keep both hands on the wheel.

Until the next blog, Live life and be happy.


Mindset Of A Drama-Llama

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Solitude brings a deafening silence that forces us to take a long hard look at who we are. Some people may like what they see, but most will not. As we gawk at ourselves, we tend to focus on the negatives. 

“We don’t do this or that. We failed in these areas. And, our peers agree we suck.” 

We feed our inner demons and become our worst critic.

Deeds from the past come crawling out of their graves. Our minds begin to rationalize what we should do and what we should have done. An avalanche of “if’s” devour our confidence until we are nothing more than a whimpering soul wishing we had done more. 

Not everyone welcomes downtime and silence. Some need to stay busy to avoid the spotlight. Or, perhaps, they need to cause others trouble to prevent a judgemental eye from their peer.

The drama we create keeps others on their feet and off of our backs. At first, the troubles are small, but as life goes on, we become better at manipulating peers. We fabricate so many stories that it is hard to see the truth. And the best part is we are getting away with it. No one knows we are involved. We have successfully become drama-llamas.

No longer do we need to look at our ugliness. We have the world dancing and trying to put out the fiery rumors that burn in their world. Our intentions lie within the fact that no one cares about unseen imperfections. Perhaps we’ll rush in and save them, becoming a hero and “true friend.” How great would we look then?

Some of us are addicted to drama. Peace brings tranquillity. Chaos brings change. New people equals new opportunities. We hope things will be better. This is a prodigal dream due to our lack of self-improvement. It is selfish to change our environment, peers, or stature, but not change ourselves. Only a juvenile mind would scream, “I want others to hurt because I hurt. Why should I be the only one with pain?” A fool seeks comfort from pity. We are better than this.

To peer into the thoughts of those who are mentally addicted to drama helps us to understand the simple fact that we cannot help those that do not help themselves. It is my personal opinion that we should avoid drama-lovers. They are toxic and will cause harm until they change their mindset. When dealing with anyone, whether good or bad, be professional. Treat others with dignity and respect. Sometimes this does mean that we need to excuse ourselves before we lose self-control. 

If we feel that trouble follows us everywhere, then we need to evaluate our disposition. We must accept the fact that life is not good nor bad. Life is existence. Our motive, mindset, and attitude determine our perception. We are the reason we believe life is for or against us. Events happen every day; our approach determines how we cope. 

When an unexpected bump in the road comes our way, we can either smile and say, “That was unexpected.” Or, we can get mad and chuck expletives and everything that moves around us. The choice is ours. 

Until the next blog, live life and be happy.

I Will Be Happy When…

A time will come for those who want to chase their dreams. The joys of life are placed on the back burner. This may come during college, military career, parenthood, or whenever our upmost focus is needed, and there is no time for dilly-dallying. 

For me, I turned my back towards happiness while I served in the Navy. Why would I do such an unthinkable thing? Because I knew the good time of the economical ’90s couldn’t last forever. I needed security, a career that could stand the test of times. Thus, the reason I joined the military. Yes, the pay was less than adequate until I made E5. But I was working towards a military retirement that I could draw without being in my golden years. My goa consisted of getting paid for the rest of my life by sacrificing a part of mine.

Parenthood has a similar effect. Though I have no children of my own, I have watched friends and family focus on providing the best for their children. Time and time again, I observed these heroes put their wants and dreams on hold. Selfless sacrifice such as this is noteworthy. After all, it’s in our children’s nature to take without fully understanding the cost on our behalf until they become parents. 

This brings me to my point. When do we plan on being happy? For me, It was after the military. I’m not going to say I was “Joe Navy,” not even close. But I held my tongue and kept my posture. Each day was another day of uncomfortable conformity. With patience, wisdom, and much focus, I made it. But here’s the kicker, I became accustomed to the military lifestyle. My life was about to become upside down upon my retirement.

Here is where we stumble when it comes to our happiness. We never stop. I took the time and asked, “what made me happy?” I kept the list simple. A steady job and a house in the semi-rural area were my priorities. My anxiety was high, but I kept a level head. I needed to complete my list of objectives. I took the proper steps, and every day, I reminded myself to be happy. To some extent, I had to learn how to be satisfied.

When transitioning from one lifestyle to another, allow time for adjustment. If we backslide, that’s all right. It’s part of growing. The main goal is to start something, do something, and be something. We will grow towards our focus point. So be mindful of what is in our sights.

Know when the task is complete. There is always room for improvement or excuses for why we should stay engaged in our work. Don’t fall into this trap. Define a stopping point. Although parenthood never ends, Setting a date for when our focus will be on us is crucial. Stick to the date. This may mean that our children will learn how to “adult” on their own. Yes, it’s scary. But that doesn’t mean that our plans are derailed. We deserve to be happy.

“I will be happy when…” will never come into effect if we don’t allow it. Weeks lead to months lead to years lead to never happening. There will always be a reason why we can’t start. Make a reason and tell the world why it’s our time. The moments for sweat, toil, and tears are over. It’s time for us and our happiness. Doing so is vital for our health. No one has extended their life by staying stressed out. Find your happiness. You deserve it. 

Until the next blog, live life and be happy.

Coping Is Not Being 100%

If we are coping, then we are good, right? After all, to cope means to deal with a problem successfully. Yes, but no. I believe this is where we forget that we are human. If we are dealing with an issue, then we have not found a resolution.

Imagine a person treading water in the ocean. How long can that person last before being overwhelmed with fatigue? Now let’s say we cruise by in our boat, see the swimmer, and think, “Meh, they’re fine.” and pull away, leaving the poor soul to fend on their own. This is the same course we take when we assume others are all right.

All aspects of life can reach a level of fatigue. Social, financial, physical, mental, or whatever we are susceptible to catastrophic exhaustion. It’s at that point when we see no way out that depression and anxiety take control. By managing the stress in these areas, we can mitigate our problems. This means that we may need to rely on others to pull through.

When assessing our situation, be honest. Just because our head is above the water does not mean we are doing well. If someone asks how we are doing, don’t reflexively volley the answer, “I’m fine.” If we are not “fine,” then we shouldn’t say we are. That’s called lying. We do not need fiery pants.

Nevertheless, we don’t need to console everyone that asks how we are doing. That would be ridiculous. But, if we need assistance, then we should look for it before we sink. Don’t worry about being a burden on others. If they asked for our help, we would be there, right? The same applies to us. They will be there for us, especially if they are checking on how we are doing.

If we are coping, then we have not found a resolution to our problem. We balance and manage our stress effectively as not to overburden our daily routine. We may not be 100%, but we are steady. And when the time comes, and we need assistance, we will find it. All we need to do is ask.

Until the next blog, live life and be happy.

Two Week Home Holiday

Really? Has it been four years since I started my post-Navy career? I love my job even though it can be monotonous. I never knew rewiring old aircraft could bring enjoyment. When that “hunk of iron” lifts off the deck for the first time in over a year, it brings a tremendous sense of accomplishment. Pride fills the soul, knowing that my work and effort contribute to a legacy of only 117 years. Humanity has recently learned how to fly.

Last month, I noticed I had accumulated 174 hours of personal time, getting back to the blog topic. Knowing I can only carry 80 hours over the anniversary date, I figured it was time to take a holiday.

CH-53 Or what I like to call Big Iron

I am not a workaholic. Sure, I work all the time. But, I can quit anytime I want. I don’t need to call out sick to have a fun day. I am blessed with a robust immune system. Rarely do I get sick. This condition leaves me with an ample amount of days to go to work. See my logic here. Frickin’ Fudge nuggets, I’m a workaholic.

So, what did I do on my two weeks off? I watched TV and assisted my wife when she needed it. Yup, I sat on the couch as she painted the whole room by herself.

To be fair to me, this was a project that she wanted to do, and she insisted that I reset on my days off. She knows that I don’t rest on my days off, especially if I think I have something to do. I can make an excuse to work.

I did get the lifters (tappets) changed on the truck, autumn edging is done on the front lawn, and maintained this blog. Sure there was other little stuff; “busy work.” But, I did rest a lot, fight the anxiety that I should do something, and found a balance between the two.

For the most part, I’m proud of myself for taking the time to relax. It wasn’t easy, but I did it. And now it’s back to the grindstone for another year enjoying the life of a workaholic.

Until the next blog, live life and be happy.

ISO Hope

As we wake up this morning, some of us are happy little sunshine rays while others personify, “Where the hey-hey is my coffee?” Thus proving everyone is unique. But we all have something in common. We all have some level of hope.

Do a quick search on Google, and we’ll find this definition for hope.

Hope: a feeling of expectation and desire for a sure thing to happen.

With that said, one can understand that a missed expectation can lead to the degradation of hope if our expectation is something we wanted. Repeat cutting this desire, and we soon lose our hope.

When we no longer feel that our dreams are attainable, we stop chasing them. This happens to over 90% of people around the world. We get on a schedule, and that is all we do.

We tell ourselves that we’ll chase our dreams after college, after the kids move out, or after that promotion or pay raise, or after retirement.

Today is the day for action because tomorrow will never come.

So, is it too late to start? Maybe. If we are 72, living on social security, and want to save a million dollars. That may be a far-reaching dream. Writing a memoir or touring a famous landmark is more achievable. The point is that our desire and expectations need to be reasonable. Frequently we set ourselves up for failure.

For example:
Let’s pretend we make over the poverty level, but we aren’t quite to the middle class yet. We have our associates and are a few classes short of a bachelor’s degree. Our bills have us stretched thin, and we do live paycheck to paycheck.

We want more money. We do not want to live from paycheck to paycheck. And last but not least we want to be seen enjoying the nice things in life. Hey, we aren’t vain. We don’t want to look poor. (I’ve heard that comment a lot from friends.)

The first thing we may want to invest in is a name brand coffee cup so we can drink our budget-friendly coffee with class. Secondly, we need to stop comparing ourselves to others. We will never keep up with “The Jone’s.” We should keep up with ourselves or keep ourselves up, either way.

Secondly, lose the baggage. This includes but is not limited to judgemental friends who love to express negative opinions at the most opportune times. I’m sure they ‘mean well,” but they don’t.
Drop the extra bills too. One HD tv stream uses 5Mbps. Why do we need to pay for 2000Mbps? If we want more money in the bank, then we need to opt for a lower plan. I’m typing this on a broadband plan. We had cable internet, but it always went out, not so with broadband. I like it, and it works.

Lastly, we need to be happy with what we have. So what if the roof leaks and the pipes in the wall make funny noises when we run the hot water. I’m sure someone out there is envious of our roof and our hot water. Living out of my car when I was young and on my own taught me the value of a hot shower.

These are massive changes, but if we are to preserve our hope for a better tomorrow, we need to take the necessary steps today. No one said the change is easy. And I’m sure new problems will arise. But we must always have hope. It is what keeps us going each day. Never lose hope.

Until the next blog, live life and be happy.

Self-deprecation, Wolves, and Fred Flintstone.

While at home on vacation, I decided to work on the truck. Having a lifter (tappet) ticking, I decided to change all of them on the passenger’s side of the engine. I’ll do the driver’s side when they begin to tick. Easy-peasy right? Well, maybe. The truck is outside, so rain, leaves, and pine needles are hazardous to an exposed engine. Then there’s the fact that the cast iron manifold is heavy. And as the laws of hoses and electrical wires go, when in a compromising position, something will grab hold and thwart any progress made. Despite the complications and aggravations, I love working on older vehicles. There’s a mechanical simplicity that provides a rewarding smile when fired up. The deeper the breakdown, the greater the satisfaction.

Anyone (male or female) who has worked on vehicles will agree that no advanced project goes perfect on older automobiles. This stress can present a mental challenge. For me, it comes in the form of self-deprecation.

“Why can’t I buy more reliable vehicles? I’m in over my head. Do you know what you’re doing, or are you pretending to be some great mechanic? Dude, face it, you suck.”

We can be downright mean to ourselves. But why? Aren’t we suppose to be our biggest fan? Yes. Yes, we are. However, we have this habit of imitating those around us. Receive support, and we self-replicate that feeling. The same goes with insults and criticism. We learn this at a very young age. Infants develop tones and attitudes that later affect that child’s developmental behavior. I’m not saying that a child raised with supportive parents will grow up to be a great person. I’m stating that that child has a greater chance of succeeding in life than a child without supportive parents.

“But I was raised by wolves.”

Then you, my friend, will have some hurdles to jump. In reality, we all have obstacles. The grass is always greener on the other side. It’s easier to find fault in ourselves than to see it in others because we have more incriminating information about ourselves than others. That’s how life is supposed to be.

Face reality. Knowing that we have the potential to be over-cruel to ourselves brings to light the fact that we need to throttle back on the self-criticism. Everyone has their good and bad points, no one is perfect, and lastly, don’t put people on pedestals. No one is better than we are. (Ok one more) Don’t look down at others. We are not better than homeless drunks. We are all human.

Why can’t I buy more reliable vehicles? Because I love to restore old cars. I love the mental challenge of fixing a broken puzzle. Yes, I do get in over my head, but I always come out on top despite not knowing what I’m doing. Yes, I make mistakes and mess up. I’m human. And there are times that that simple fact is hard to face because I fail to see others’ complications. Sometimes it appears that I am the only one struggling. But, that is because I am only looking at my flaws. My focus creates my perception. Fact: No one goes through life without a struggle.

For those of us who self-deprecate, stop. We are more significant than our negativity. Don’t listen to the “Yeah, but.” rebuttals that we present to ourselves. We are better and more valuable than that. Besides, “Yeah, but” is what Fred Flintstone says before he yells, “Dabba doo.”

Take the time to bask in self-complements now and again, but don’t go overboard. 🙂

Until the next blog, live life and be happy.

Acting Vs Reacting

Acting vs. reacting.

Acting and reacting are two different mindsets. One takes charge of a situation while the latter waits for the scenario to warrant action. Negligence develops from procrastination. We don’t need to do everything at once, but  we need to do something. 

In our journey towards a peaceful life, it is imperative to understand the importance of taking action. When reacting, we are not in control. This reaction to an external source creates uncertainty and increases stress. By acting, our decisions are from withing as we take control of the situation. 

“What if we fail or make things worse?” 

In simple terms, we cannot break broke. It is already broken. Never fret over increasing degradation by trying to correct the problem. Acting is better than nothing. We may need to hire a professional or call a friend, but implementing a solution puts us in a better mindset than waiting for an emergency. As soon as we find a problem, we begin to worry. Some may worry more than others, but the stress effects us all. As the situation grows, so does our anxiety. By acting, we are implementing control, and that provides relief. Our problems may not have a solution, but we are doing something, and that leads to a resolution. 

“But I don’t know how to fix it.”

Welcome to “A rainy day.” Remember when our grandparents told us to put money back for a rainy day. They weren’t speaking literally. Nope, they were referring to not so sunny days. When the washer decides it has had enough and goes on strike right after sudsing up our clothes. Then the dryer turns in its resignation letter as well. That’s enough to make anyone scream, “Expletive!” When it rains, it pours, right? There will come a time when we need to hire a professional. Everyone has a story similar to this. The difference is some of us plan for emergencies, and some of us don’t. 

Having that extra cash buys peace of mind. How much should we have in savings for that rainy day? There is no magical number, but one year’s wage is a good start if an amount is necessary. Yes, that is a lot for most of us. But with proper planning, we can achieve it. Remember, there is always a reason to spend our savings. So we must find a reason to save. 

When times get tough, can we afford not to have those savings? 

Let’s switch gears and look at procrastination. Give me a deadline, and I’ll meet it a week later.  Trust me. I get stressed out when placed under a clock. A get-it-done-date may motivate some, but that isn’t me. Clutter, procrastination, lack of research are a few stressors associated with meeting the due date. It is human nature to push through to the deadline. However, we need to implement the best action.  That may include stopping the project to declutter and gather quality information. Despite the anxiety associated with pausing a project, everything begins to make sense, and progressions are more comfortable to achieve once we have some sort of organization. 

Acting creates a better product than reacting. With more time afforded to the task at hand, there is room to correct any errors that may come our way. There is nothing worse than not having time for plan B or plan C. 

If things are getting behind, don’t wait until the deadline to let others know. Assessing our timeline during our “organizational time” will let us know if we should alert others. Plan for the worse, but expect the best. 

When we act, we are leading, and when we react, we are following. Even if we are passing a project off to someone else, do it promptly. Timely action will prevent our assistant from reacting to the situation.  No one guarantees that they won’t react to our decision. 

Until the next blog, live life and be happy.

Everyone Is Eager To Point Out My Flaws.

Everyone is eager to point out my flaws.

There may come a time when it appears the world is against us. Trust me when I say it is not. But the fact that people are willing to point out our flaws to others is intriguing. So, let’s take a moment to analyze why everyone is eager to point out our flaws.

It is safe to say no one is perfect. Although this is common knowledge, we are quick to find flaws in others. It’s a social-measurement that we use to keep ourselves and others in check.  We may share these flaws in a taunting manner, or hold our observation in silence. Either way, everyone is doing it. 

So, if we are judging, then there must be a benchmark. Right? Two types of touchstones affect this scenario, individual-standards, and social-standards. The first is yours, or mine, and the second is ours.

 What happens when we apply social-standards onto one person? Well, we create a community environment. Common mindsets exist amongst families and friends. 

“This is how we do things around here.” 

And when we place individual-standards onto a social group, we create a cultic setting. 

 “It’s my way or the highway.” 

That moment when one person is in control, can consume one’s reasonable judgment. We’ve seen this in many cult leaders, churches, and mayors. Leading a group gives power, and that power can be intoxicating. 

Let’s approach the question, “Why do we judge?” No one maintains a perfect benchmark. So why hold that expectation onto others? 

As humans, we love order and organization. We treat, clean, and purify anything that we see dirty or unfit to use. If it can’t be fixed, we toss it. The same goes for our peers. We have a level of expectation for those we spend time around. I highly doubt we would hang around a person that refused to bathe. This person would not meet our expectations for basic hygiene. Right?

Here is where it gets tricky. Some of us would keep our comments to ourselves, while others would confront the individual. This confrontation is what divides moral and immoral. Some would approach the individual to inform them of their offensive odor, while others would seize the opportunity to ridicule and gain public favoritism. Perhaps another group would show their hatred to lower the non-bathing peer’s morale. “After all, why should they be happier than me?” 

It’s easier to fix others than it is to correct ourselves. Why should we work on our happiness when we can lower others? Welcome to the fundamental of bullying. When we are sad or depressed, we correct what made us this way. Our non-bathing friend may bathe now that they understand the discomfort they present. Or perhaps we were sharp with our words, and embarrassment is the reason for bathing. Either way, the problem is fixed. Right? Sure, let’s look at our point of view. We no longer have to smell our peer. 

“Hey, that’s not a bad thing. Stinky people stink. And that stench brings discomfort, and sometimes we need to show some tough love. Why should we suffer? Sure our words were uncouth. They needed to be to convey our level of dismay.” This mindset is the antithesis of professionalism

Perhaps our peer didn’t come from the Home&Garden family. Some live with undiagnosed mentally ill parents who physically and verbally abuse their children. Others come from a family of alcohol and or drug abusers. We never know what hell the person next to us has traversed. This is why it is crucial to treat everyone with dignity and professionalism. 

Let’s analyze the flip-side.

If we are on the receiving end of the comments and ridicules, then perhaps we should look at why such statements are made. Maybe we are offending and don’t realize it. It happens. I’ve offended a lot of people on accident. I may end up annoying a lot more, who knows? My point here is that I cannot satisfy everyone. There are going to be people who grumble for the mere opportunity to complain. Google search how many Americans are happy, and 14% shows up as the answer. If only 14% of our peers are satisfied with life, we can expect a lot of belly-aching. 

Don’t take the opinions of others personally. In the end, those comments are not facts. Allow me to say that again; opinions are not facts. I want to make it clear that the assumptions are not concrete. And there are times when we ramble to get things off our chest. We have no substance to our temper tantrum; we merely want to vent. 

It’s not easy to take criticism. As I went higher in the military, I received more criticism on everything. Not because I was doing things wrong, but because I was held to a higher standard. Sometimes we are held to a higher standard than we realize. We are role models to our peers. And when role models stumble, people are quick to voice their concerns. This may come in the form of jeering. If we show offense to the statements given, we frequently receive a lot more. It’s human nature to find a button and keep pushing it. The best advice I can give is to roll with the punches. 

Because most of our peers do not have malicious intent, it is safe to say most of the criticism received is not malice. Our complication comes from a lack of digesting the judgment from others. 

We do not have to answer for everything. Therefore we shouldn’t always be on the defense. Relax and enjoy life. Yes, people are going to point out flaws—big whoop. Stick around, and I’m sure I’ll do something else worth critiquing. There are times people laugh with me, and there are times they are laughing at me. It bothered me when I was young. Now that I’ve been around the sun a few times. I will laugh with you at my expense.  

In the end, it doesn’t matter. What does matter is finding inner-peace. Although the world may seem horrible, a calm soul helps us traverse those times.

Until the next blog, live life and be happy.